When was the last time you did? How did it feel? Do you want more of that?
Go. Get some.
I recently read a line in Brene Brown’s latest book “Rising Strong” that keeps rolling around in my mind the way that truth often does.
“…the most compassionate people I interviewed also have the most well-defined and well-respected boundaries. It surprised me at the time, but now I get it. They assume that other people are doing the best they can, but they also ask for what they need and they don’t put up with a lot of crap.”
I want to be a compassionate person. Sometimes I am. Most of the time I think I have good boundaries, but what I notice about the times I don’t (which is more often that I’d like to admit) is that I am hardest on myself. I give away what I know is kindness towards me in pursuit of what I THINK will make others lives easier/better/etc.
What if other people are doing the best they can? What if you are, and I am?
How would we be different? How might that change…everything?
This is the third in a series of six posts that mirror the process of weight coaching. This session is about finding out what you are feeling.
If you’ve been successful at gaining weight I’m guessing you’ve done your fair share of emotional eating. The kind of eating that says, “I’m not tired/stressed/upset…” but the bottom of that bag of chips may think otherwise!
I love this quote from Brooke Castillo: “If hunger isn’t the problem then food is not the solution.”
I think that is as simple as it can get. If you are eating when you aren’t hungry and you want to stop – you have to figure out what it is you are trying to solve/avoid by eating when you are not hungry.
One time this week when you notice that you are not hungry but you are about to eat something or you just ate something when you weren’t hungry, ask yourself: What am I/was I trying to avoid feeling.
Just to see what comes up. If you want to share, I’d love to hear about it. You know where to find me.
Welcome to the first post in this 6-Week series where I’ll take you through the nuts and bolts of weight loss coaching with me. I know coaching is an investment, first – in yourself, and second – financially. Coaching has never been an investment I’ve taken lightly, considering certain programs for years prior to purchasing. It is because I know this that I want you to really see what is involved if you want to.
Your first session we will go over your pre-work and set the expectations for our coaching relationship. It’s really important to me that you know how much I value your time. We will always stay within our scheduled hour, I will be on time and the session will be all about you. This work, this relationship is about you and for you. (Even though I posted these chairs under the Oak tree – coaching with me happens over the phone.)
Then we spend time talking about your history and the reasons you’ve come to coaching. I’ll introduce you to a tool we will use each time we meet. If you’ve been reading this newsletter for awhile you already know about it. The Model. You can read about it or refresh your memory HERE.
Each week there is time for coaching and for learning new tools, week one leans a bit more heavily on the tools and your personal history, weeks two – six are filled more heavily with coaching.
No matter what week it is, you never have to show up to a call knowing what to do. I’ll always have a plan for that day, and, I always know that throwing the plan out the window from time to time is the best thing! So bring whatever is up, and we’ll decide our best strategy from there.
That is it for week one, I’ll see you back here next week for our 2nd session!