“Dreams that come true can be as unsettling as those that don’t.” -Brett Butler
How cool is that? And scary.
If you are feeling unsettled, which side are you on?
-Caryn
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“Dreams that come true can be as unsettling as those that don’t.” -Brett Butler
How cool is that? And scary.
If you are feeling unsettled, which side are you on?
-Caryn
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Hey Caryn!
Two things come up for me immediately when I read this:
1) Being in happy stuff, like dreams coming true, CAN be very unsettling. I’m reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly and just finished reading something that speaks to this state of being. She wrote that having a gratitude practice during times like these is very helpful in staving off the unsettledness. I see that as a wonderful aide in moving toward the side of the happy dream and moving away from siding with whatever feelings or beliefs are unsettling. I like it!
2) The idea of taking sides has always bothered me for some reason. Definitely unsettles me. There’s a mounting sense, in my worldview, of people taking sides, being righteous, speaking in absolutes, making clear divisions between themselves and others. There’s a feeling of isolation, fear and sadness that is palpable to me. I’ve been mostly nonconformist and LOVE ambiguity throughout my life. I’m beginning to gain a widening perspective that can hold and choose not to own this polar extreme of “being on a side” while simultaneously choosing to take a stand for my dreams. What a relief!
Cool!
Thanks for this potent inquiry!!
Thank YOU! This is great Lydia… I love Brene Brown – her book is on my list!
Taking sides is unsettling as well! AND, when it is your life on both sides it makes it a more interesting comparison. I too love to enjoy all options, both sides, not choosing, staying mellow, and keeping things happy. I also want some of the bigger dreams to be more than dreams and some of the more ‘stuck’ habits to be more mobile and less present.
Here is to the process, the dance, and the thoughtfulness – thanks for chiming in!
Caryn
I feel like I am going both ways on this. Some dreams are coming true, but they aren’t leaving ne feeling happy, fufilled, etc as planned. While others are not and I’m feeling rather okay with it. I’m certainly taking a long look at many things to fine tune and adjust the dreams to let this unsettling feeling go.
Question everything! Use your curiosity: What do I think I will feel like when that happens? Is that what I want, or is that what I wanted when ____ was true? How would I feel if I never did that?
So much room to play and dig and open up your future to enjoyment you may have never considered!
Have fun,
Caryn
Yes. When you finally realize that everything you dreamed about has happened, what’s next. That is the hardest part. It is like getting up from Thanksgiving dinner ready to pop and what do I want to have now. There is a certain amount of guilt associated with both scenarios. Having been so richly rewarded and satisfied it is easy to slide into complacency. So dream bigger?
In Japan they have the term “2nd stomach” and I think it applies here. It is the separate stomach just for dessert, even when the other is full there is always room for more enjoyment, sweetness, texture, and taste.
Get hungry.
Caryn
Thanks everyone, so much, for the comments today. I loved hearing about the richness of life for each of you – reminds me that ‘live’ is an action word!
Big love,
Caryn