You’re really good at taking care of things for other people but when it comes to taking care of yourself, not so much… You want to be done with the weight struggle, but it’s for you to put yourself first long enough to make any real change.
I’m a weight loss coach for professional women who are super busy and travel a lot, so they don’t have energy for a weight loss approach that won’t work. I help them make weight loss inevitable, so they can finally hit their goal weight.
How I got here:
I took a trip to Spain in 2003 and as soon as the plane took off from Seatac I felt what I affectionately call “the affliction.” I had to know what this thing I wanted to do was called, and I had to figure out how to do it. The journey to coaching started in that moment, found it’s name at an internet cafe in Valencia, and has guided every decision I made about how and what to do since.
I became a coach because I was aware that I was, and other people are missing out on their lives because they are distracted by their bodies. We are all missing out on the gifts they are meant to share with the world because of that distraction.
When someone is ready to step out of the discomfort of the struggle with their body, food, or dieting and up into their lives that’s where I come in – that’s my gift that I have to actively get out of my own way and share with the world.
I came to it naturally, through the struggle of my own.
In so many areas of life I was strong, capable, and able to do pretty much anything I tried. The one thing I thought might never happen was losing weight. In high school and college I was certainly still hopeful, but the goal always felt out of reach.
I’m not a naturally thin person – I struggled with and was distracted by food for as long as I can remember and I didn’t want to admit that my weight bothered me. I wanted to be better or smarter than that, I wished I didn’t care – but I did.
I have always been strong in my physical body – I fished commercially after high school and through grad school to pay my tuition. I could handle a lot, hold my own most anywhere, but this part of me was always on shaky ground.
I wanted to be comfortable in my skin. I wanted to actually be healthy instead of faking it and hoping people didn’t notice what I was eating. (It turns out, overeating healthy food is still overeating!) I no longer wanted to feel powerless against the gravitational pull of a chocolate chip cookie or the urgency to go out and get a pint of ice cream after a hard day.
Being overweight allowed me to make excuses for not really engaging in my life. “I’ll ask for the promotion when I finally lose weight…” “If I were thinner I would totally take more adventures with my family!”
Overeating was my go-to management tool for… everything. Stressed? Happy? Too busy? Overtired? I’m okay, I’ve got chips! Right?
In 2015 Liv changed everything.
I might have been called to be a coach and to work on this struggle in one form or another for the better part of ten years, but once I had a baby girl it was like my fear was staring me right in the face. When I looked at how I ate and how I was using food to handle my life I worried, how can I raise her without food and body issues?
My excuses no longer made sense. It wasn’t okay. It felt impossible, even irresponsible, to ignore this anymore. It wasn’t an option to be distracted and overweight.
I wanted freedom, for me and for my daughter, I was 34 and I’d had a long time to get it right – but I knew I had a lot of life left to live and I had to go after this.
So I got to work. The only answer I could come up with was to clean up my own “stuff.” I had to figure out my own issues with food so that I could show up for her without a bunch of food, diet, and body baggage.
I made time for me in ways I never had before and did so consistently, daily. It wasn’t “I’ll start Monday” it was “this decision matters.” I had to consistently challenge the desire for ice cream and nachos so that I could deal with what had been driving me to overeat and keeping me overweight.
I paid attention to the things I had been trying to avoid or had used emotional eating to cover up, and figured out how to live my life how I wanted to without that layer of foggy fullness on top. I chose to show up for myself instead of living in an overfed fog that had been the norm. It was hard as hell, but the discomfort of staying the same was scarier than the discomfort of changing.
When I really got down to work on this, pulled out all the stops and went “all-in” on myself – the weight fell off. It was faster than I ever would have expected and was a bit shocking.
The skinny clothes from the ‘wishful thinking’ pile of too-expensive-to-get-rid-of clothes in the back of the closet started to fit again, and though I felt proud to wear them, they were quickly too big.
I’d done the food make-over to get the results I wanted, now I needed the clothes make-over. Don’t get me wrong – I was having a blast, but I was showing up everyday for myself and doing the work of becoming. Not easy, but so, so worth it.
How I live now:
I eat what I want, and I eat a lot. I exercise – but not as much as you think. I’m comfortable in my body – it feels like me in here! I am not worried the other shoe is going to drop because both of my feet are planted firmly on the ground (and when they’re on the scale – the number is lower than ever).
I’m not back to pre-baby or high school weight. I’m at a new weight that I never imagined my body could arrive, or live at with ease.
That’s the work I do with my clients. Together we hone in on and do the work of becoming that future self of theirs who’s always been 20, 30, 73 pounds away.
We can all imagine that amazing woman out there in our future. She does all the great things we never get around to: she loses weight, volunteers more, keeps her garage organized and her photos up to date in albums, eats more kale… If she is always out there in the future, we never make it. We never get to be who we always planned on becoming. We miss out on our lives.
Are you ready to leave the struggle behind and be free?
You have so much going on in your life, you’re not sure you have time to add anything else. It’s daunting to think about changing because your life is so full already. As you know, that’s never going to change!
You are right to be wary. It will be challenging – it will make you feel crazy and it will test your belief in yourself. I just need you to know that this is possible.
Choosing to tackle the problem of overeating, ending the struggle with food and your weight, is a big deal. The good news is, I have all the tools you need to get you there when you are ready. Together we will learn what works for you, what you need to feel fueled and fulfilled so that you can lose the extra weight and find freedom in your life and in your body.
“Exploring my relationship with food has been a very satisfying experience for me, there are so many layers to myself and my relationship with food. I’ve not only identified, but overcome many obstacles that have stood in the way of a lean and healthy lifestyle. I’m changing as a whole person as well. Learning to identify blocks and triggers not only to my eating habits, but to the way I enjoy food as an important part of my life. Coaching is the healthiest and most satisfying indulgence I’ve ever allowed myself!”
-M. in Southeast Alaska
Professional Training and Education
2007: Masters in Counseling Psychology
2010: Trained and Certified as a Co-Active Coach
2011: Trained and Certified as an Intuitive Eating Pro
2015: Certified in Life and Weight Coaching through The Life Coach School